Is effort ever proportional? Relationships Edition

We feed off relationships. Wether the needs of said relationship are met are what decides if the bond is sustained or not. To be honest, I have never been in many relationships to deem wether I am qualified to write this but had my sufficient share of them. Humbly speaking, I’ve succeeded in most but not without failure. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but the answer is a simple no. But for many underlying factors that we frequently overlook. But to understand that them will you achieve true power to overcome challenges in the future.

Friendships for one, should be easy, no commitment and stress free. (for us guys sorry) Almost no effort is required because we understand as men, there is no need for us, who start from ground 0 to cause more stress to one another. We feed off each other’s energy for our entertainment. The boys are there for you. And rightly so. We create an environment; almost like an outlet to destress each other and the fact of the matter is that because it is so easy to be with them that we keep looking for this platform and are constantly drawn to them. We understand each other on the molecular level because we were born with the same male genetics hence further cohesion is formed. The occasional effort to wingman another brother, or to help with an individual’s network or even for the once in a blue moon favour often grants its rewards in the form of our company to each other. Hence it may even be said that no effort was put in because the fruits of the relationship had already been born. If you ever thought your effort was unjustified in a group setting, you're probably in the wrong group..

On to the juicy part; the same CANNOT be said about romantic relationships. I believe strongly that there is no relationship on this earth where its partners commit an equal 50% to each other. Almost every relationship requires one to give more than the other. The reason? Both men and women are created different. As a lady, you are born blessed with innate value. Women are not forced to fight in wars, neither are they traditionally expected to provide for a household in the presence of a man. Undoubtedly, they have a separate set of struggles, sometimes more difficult for a man. Don’t fight me though I LOVE WOMEN. But for a man, he was born with no value. He is expected to build an empire around his life to be worth even considered as a partner. He, a man with nothing, is useless. And truthfully, it should not be any other way. Life is precious, but he must have the capacity for him to live. No women will provide for him; a lonely man might as well be the definition of independence. It doesn’t sound as terrible as it does though. No matter how much the left suggest that a man is equal in all ways to a women does NOT change the fact that we simply aren’t. Though equality is not achieved, equity is not a pipe dream away. Hence bringing me to my point that effort would never be proportional. In many cases, the women have fought for their equality or to even dream of having the hierarchal status as some men. While men have to fight harder to find a partner. All is fair in love and war but never equal. Simply fair and barely fair enough. For the left, for this to bring you existential crisis would be an utter waste of time. Sometimes we just have to accept it.